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  • The Magic of Christmas

    Decorating Wisely by Glenda Wise

    I hope you all are having a fantastic holiday season! I am finally finished with…

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  • Heart Health Awareness

    Press release

    The 2014 “State of the State’s Health” reports Oklahoma has the third highest rate of death due to…

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  • LeFlore County Health…

    LeFlore County Health Department is sponsoring a six week workshop for people with diabetes. Diabetes is a disease in…

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    Press release

    Paced by the lowest smoking rate ever recorded, Oklahoma moved up three spots to 43rd in America’s Health…

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  • Serving up cookbooks as…

    By Leilana McKindra

    STILLWATER, Okla. – Wondering what to get the foodie on your holiday list? Or perhaps you are…

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  • Crock Pot Chicken and…

    Ingredients1 large onion, diced1 can (10.5 oz) cream of celery soup1 can (10.5 oz) cream of chicken soup1 tablespoon…

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  • Prepare for winter weather

    Press release

    As cooler temperatures make their way into the state, the Oklahoma State Department of Health (OSDH)…

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  • Flu shot clinic scheduled for…

    Press Release

    In continuation of the LeFlore County Health Department/Choctaw Nation Health Care Influenza…

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  • Tuesday Dining Menu at Café…

    Tuesday Breakfast at CASC Cafeteria is Scrambled eggs, hash browns, bacon, biscuits & gravy, chocolate gravy,…

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  • In The Nick Of Time

    Pervasive ParentingBy Kodey Toney

    It’s that time of the year again as children get ready for a visit to Saint Nick.…

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  • Decorating Wisely: Christmas…

    By Glenda Wise

    I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving. We spent the day at my mom and dad’s farm.

    We ended it…

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    Calling all Chili makers!

    Wister Public Schools in now taking entries to their inaugural Chili Cooking Contest to be…

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  • First Two Flu Deaths of the…

    Press release

    The Oklahoma State Department of Health (OSDH) announced the first two deaths caused by the flu in the…

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    Wednesday, November 29 - Pizza, BBQ Chicken Legs, Baby Bakers, California Veggies.

    Thursday, November 30 - Smoked…

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  • For the Children: As Holiday…

    By OICA CEO Joe Dorman

    The Oklahoma Institute for Child Advocacy is pleased to partner with several organizations to…

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For parents, empty nest can be full of promise Featured

Written by  Sunday, 30 July 2017 00:23
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By Leilana McKindra, Communications Specialist-Agricultural Communications Services, Oklahoma State University

 

STILLWATER, Okla. – What’s next?


That is the looming question many Oklahoma families will face this fall when they usher the youngest child out of the house and, in a moment of hand-wringing fear and giddy excitement, officially empty the proverbial nest.


After the birth of children, the second major adjustment for many marriages comes when those children are grown up enough to leave the home, said Ron Cox, associate professor and Oklahoma State University Cooperative Extension marriage and family specialist.


“After a couple spends 20 years raising their kids, they often find that they don’t really know each other anymore once it’s just the two of them again,” Cox said. “It can be very difficult for parents when the last child leaves home.”


Ensuring their children’s well-being is a full-time job for parents, which is why research shows that on average marital quality takes a bit of a hit when kids come along.


“The decline in marital quality is normal, actually, as couples figure out the routine that comes with raising children and maintaining the household,” Cox said. “Meanwhile, couples may not spend as much time on their own relationship so it frequently gets neglected.”


However, once those children are ready to strike out on their own, it forces husbands and wives to rethink the marriage. This can be a great opportunity for rediscovery or it could be problematic if a couple feels they do not know each other anymore.


In fact, there is a small spike in the divorce rate around the 22-year marriage anniversary mark, proving just how difficult it can be to go back to the days before diapers, soccer practices and homework.


However, for many couples the empty nest is a chance to start anew.


One of the ways couples successfully negotiate the transition from full house to empty nest is by finding positive experiences they can share together.


“Maybe you take up a shared hobby, seek out other couples to socialize with or begin planning your retirement home,” Cox said. “With the kids gone, you’ve a lot of time to fill, and it’s important to spend most of it doing things you enjoy. As your role as a parent becomes less demanding, you and your spouse have a chance to start pursuing old dreams or chasing new ones.”


Actually, couples do not have to wait for the kids to completely clear out to begin identifying activities they can share.


“Start by setting aside a date night or scheduling lunch together once a week,” said Cox. “Or, consider getting involved in a cause, perhaps through a social service agency or a church. Giving back in a way that is meaningful to each of you not only helps renew the bonds of your relationship, but also benefits a cause in which you both believe.”

 

 



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David Deaton

Digital Editor at Oklahoma Welcome

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